This is going to be a long one…so grab a coffee and get cozy! lol *Yes, I’m a fancy blogger who says “haha” and “lol” in my posts. Aren’t I such an amazing writer? 😉
I have wanted to talk on this subject for so long, but I’ve always been unsure of where to begin. I feel like some people who watch my videos or read my blog put me on a sort of “blogging pedestal” where all they see me as is a blogger who gets sent a ton of free stuff, is able to work from home, and values materialism over anything. I’m pretty sure those that have been following my life for a while along with my close friends know I’m the complete opposite to that. While I love getting free beauty/mom/fashion products (who doesn’t?), 90% of the time I give them away to friends/my Mom (LOL you should see her bathroom at home! It’s filled to the brim with my hand me downs). I’m not a big fan of clutter since we live in such a small apartment. Anyways, at first it was all really exciting! A new package would come in the mail from a brand and even Doug got excited to see what was inside. After a while the packages started piling up and the excitement wore off and I’ve realized that it’s all just stuff. It doesn’t pay the bills and it doesn’t make me happy like the memories I have with my family do. With that being said, if there was one lesson I’ve learned in 2016/2017 is that delaying gratification is the single most important thing I contribute to success and happiness.
**^^KILL ME NOW those baby hairs!! And I’m not talking about Annabelles…
You guys, I’ve completely fallen back in love with blogging. I’ve missed it so much! I stopped for a while because my channel receives way more views that my blog, but who cares! If I love it I’m going to continue doing it. That’s part of my new motto for 2018.
Throughout the past year, I’ve poured countless hours into reading and listening to podcasts from entrepreneurs, businessmen, thought leaders, etc. and not only that, but also Dave Ramsey of course. I feel like a broken record when I mention his name to you guys, but he has truly changed our way of thinking 10000% and if it weren’t for me finding him last year, our lives would have been dramatically different for the worse. Anyways, after listening to all of these different people and their journey towards financial freedom and success I’ve found a common theme: delaying gratification needs to be second nature.
Many of them came from nothing so it was easy for them to do this. As they were building their businesses or starting their careers, they didn’t have social media to compare themselves to others. The world we live in now is entirely different and just because I’m a blogger/vlogger myself doesn’t mean I’m immune to it. It is so very hard to not take out a car loan for the sake of driving around in a nicer car. It’s hard to not take a vacation in Hawaii when you see your friends are going. It’s hard to not purchase the best of the best baby gear because it has the highest reviews. It’s hard to live in a 2 bedroom apartment when you could actually rent a house instead, but you know saving is more important. In my opinion it’s all “hard” because of social media and our society today. When we paid off our student loans in full this year we had to adopt another way of thinking: DELAYED GRATIFICATION gets you to your end goal. I thought this notion would stop after we paid off our debt and we could then let loose a little, but to my surprise, we have continued it on months after and aren’t planning on stopping until we reach our next goal of financial freedom: to be able to work for ourselves and live wherever as a family!
For the past year that meant driving old cars, not buying new things, not upgrading our place of living, and so many other things. So many of you ask how we did it in such a short amount of time and the answer is simple…don’t buy unnecessary stuff! I remember getting a comment on a video saying “It’s easy for her to say, she gets sent things for free and doesn’t have to buy anything.” Look, me getting sent beauty products or a blouse doesn’t help in the long run because I wouldn’t have purchased those things anyways so I think that’s just an easy way to dismiss the fact that you can actually do it. It’s all a mindset. You have to shift your way of thinking entirely. If that means unsubscribing from Nordstrom emails, not driving down a certain street in your town because you know you’ll want to go to the mall, or putting your paycheck in envelopes and paying for everything in cash for the time being, then it’s 100% worth it in the long run. When you start to truly believe that your happiness only comes from one place and one place only, internally, then you’ll be free from the desire to overspend and so many other possibilities will pop up out of no where. Since we’ve adopted this way of thinking, I’ve spend much less time on social media (it’s a good and bad thing since it is part of my job), haven’t been inside a mall in over a year, am highly selective on what I purchase for myself, and have realized that I’d rather have my money work for me than me for it! We asked ourselves after we paid off our debt and had our emergency fund a few months ago “What is next? Investing? Buying new cars? Buying a house?” It was then we realized that none of those things would truly make us truly happy.
There was only one thing that we would think of that so many people dismiss as a possibility and it was to be financially free. Find a way to work for ourselves and work towards that goal. So, that’s what we’re doing. I know that’s vague and part of it has to do with the Mom and baby brand we’re launching and the other part will take some time, but the point of this message is to let you all know that paying off debt/student loans/car loans/credit card bills, etc. wasn’t the end for us, it was just the beginning. Comparison truly is the thief of joy and delayed gratification opens up so many possibilities!