From the moment I put my life on the Internet, I’ve been met with strangers’ advice on all aspects of my life starting with getting engaged, planning a wedding, marriage tips, and especially when I became a Mom. A few years later and thousands of wanted (and unwanted) opinions later, I’ve learned to take the positive with the negative and heed constructive criticism as it comes. It took a while for me to determine the difference between what I could actually implement in my life from those that were coming from a good place between opinions that were coming from a place of judgment. Although sometimes it can be frustrating, I’ve received some of the most valuable and helpful advice from other Moms on the internet that I wanted to share in today’s post. These tips have really changed the way I’ve parented my child, grown as a woman, and built up our family unit throughout the past two years.
Trust your Motherly instincts. This seems like a no brainer and so many Moms gave me this advice especially throughout the first year of Annabelle’s life. At the time I was vlogging pretty much every other day about our experiences with co-sleeping, breastfeeding, and basically anything that would come up as a new Mom. It was hard hearing so many opinions at the time because I didn’t really understand what “motherly instincts” were so I’d ask for advice from other Moms. While I know most Moms come from a good place because they have gone through this stage once (or multiple times) before, it started to get confusing because what one Mom felt so strongly about, the other would disregard it. I started to realize that what could be a good path for one Mom might not be the same for the other. Although most all of the Moms who watched me at the time sleep trained their children, but deep down I knew that wasn’t something I was ready to do so it tormented me at the time because I was so torn. After months of going back and forth, I realized I needed to embrace the path that would give my entire family the most peace and it’s been the best decision we’ve made.
You can’t spoil a baby. Another piece of advice I kept receiving was “you need to put the baby down, baby wear her less, and hold her less so she gains independence”. Whenever I put Annabelle down to play and she would cry for me to pick her up, I’d often question if it was because I held her too much because everyone kept telling me so. Now that she is almost 2 years old and I’ve seen how fast time flies by, I can now say with certainty, hold your baby!! Hold them as long and as much as you can because they are literally only babies for ONE year of their life. After that they want to run and be free and the days of rocking a squishy little snuggly baby are gone. I believe that raising an independent baby doesn’t come from holding or loving on them less (or “coddling” as so many people say), but it comes from gaining trust with your child that you’ll always be there. *At least that’s been the case with Annabelle. I know every child is so different.
Asking for help is a necessity. It’s impossible to do everything on your own. I always said in the back of my mind that first year postpartum “I chose to have this baby so I don’t need help from others because no one owes me anything.” Well, life’s not exactly like that and mental health is imperative to being a good Mom. You have friends and family and a support system for a reason and now is the time you need to call on them for help. This is the biggest life change you’ll ever go through so asking a friend or parent to watch your child for an hour while you sleep, paint your nails, go for a walk (alone), or just window shop can save your sanity for a week!
Postpartum anxiety isn’t postpartum depression. There is a clear difference and either can hit you at anytime whether it’s 1 month postpartum or 10. I had postpartum anxiety so bad at 4-7 months that when I once walked into a Target when Annabelle was so small she cried because the stroller made a loud noise over the bumps on the ground that catch carts at the entrance of the doors to the store so I turned around and went home. I couldn’t even take her crying for a second. I couldn’t press on through it. Anxiety is real! Talk to someone and join a Moms group. It will help you feel less isolated in your emotions.
These tips are so invaluable and although I have about a million more, I’ll save them for a video!:) Now onto the giveaway and our new stroller!
So many of you ask me for affordable stroller recommendations because as a new Mom, baby gadgets can get expensive! We have been using the Safety 1st RIVA Flex Modular 6-in-1 Travel System, currently available only at Target stores, ever since we got back from California and it’s truly amazing. It’s an all in one eco-friendly, lightweight system that is manufactured with recycled materials, including Safety 1st car seats, in Columbus, Indiana, and features six flexible ways to stroll, a lie-flat carriage and car seat! It’s such an incredible deal for Moms that I knew I had to share. We also love its safety features like its high impact frame that’s rigorously tested to ensure sturdiness and reliability and the onboard 35 FLX infant car seat with side impact protection. It’s super easy to break down and has a ton of storage at the bottom too!
That’s it for today’s post! Make sure to enter below for a chance to win your own RIVA Flex and leave a comment letting me know your golden Mom advice!
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